I’m comfortable directing my energies to making things “better” in the spheres in which I exist — family, friends, and work. Cancer has forced me to focus more on myself, though my natural character is much less inward focused. The biggest change has been a sharper focus on what matters — how I will spend whatever time I have left. I find that I need more time by myself. I give priority to time with family and close friends. This has meant that I do not spend time with people or on events and issues that no longer matter to me. Sounds selfish, and perhaps it is. However, I’ve found that this approach helps to stay focused on that zone of mutually supportive love.
We did two shoots. The first shoot was an imitation of Vanity Fair group photos. How pretentious and how hilarious for us – who live as far away from that way of life as possible. The second shoot was us, laughing and enjoying one another. That’s what my life has been and that’s what I want it to be. With my Stage IV cancer, I consider friends and family the foundation for living. Each and every day I count on them to care for me but also for conversations, movies, breakfasts, lunches, and keeping me engaged with the real world. We talk about more than cancer. Most of all, we have fun. That’s my life now and I love my life.